We don’t do enough for the living while they are alive which explains the exorbitant amounts of money we contribute to funerals. Mostly it is about guilt, about the things we didn’t do for the de.ad. So we try to be there one last time just to make us feel better. Your friends relative has been sick for a while but you haven’t had time to be there for them. You have been busy , didn’t know how to text or call to say you couldn’t find time. As soon as the status go up that they have rested now you feel obligated to be there for them. Still you may be busy because adulting is the absolute ghetto so you send them money instead. There is so much that is left unsaid because we don’t appreciate life enough. We will wait until someone is gone to buy flowers, we will wait until then to say good things about them. Make no mistake ,that lonely person In the hospital 7/10 times will not have visitors, but on the day he’ll rest there will be so many people to check if his head rested on the proper side in the morgue. There will be so many people on his funeral. However now when he is in pain he is alone, as he cries himself inside so he can sleep he is alone.
We will even blame toxicity and say well families are different, that we can’t go because someone we don’t like might be there. The after they rest we will pull the cultural its a curse not to go. We will say it’s bad to abandon family in grieve. So we show up and wipe a few tears then avoid family and go back to the same circle. We have no shame, no remorse nothing. Which might explain why as soon as someone’s life is taken we have no remorse. Its her fault for chasing money, it’s her fault for not doing due diligence. I mean we don’t even take responsibility for our choices how would we know how to hold other people accountable. No let’s blame victims for their own death and sanctify the killer’s for taking lives. What is a woman’s worth when she wants money. Never mind that one was robbing women for money and the other is allegedly doing it for rituals(money) But that’s not important let’s focus on the victim 
