How fast do we forget that the things we have are the things we prayed for? The things that we worked so hard to get. We forget that there are days we stay up all night trying to make ends meet. The jobs that we have—how much we hoped we would get them. The assets that we own show how much sweat and tears it took for them to be in your name. Then there is the most valuable of all children. You have people who have your DNA. Women, let’s talk about this kidogo. Today of all the days you have decided it is an insult day… Well, since you are the same people preaching generational curses, then it’s time we ask where those curses come from.
You are cursing your baby daddy,calling him all the names, and wishing the worst for him. Do you know that those curses will get to him, and then his next generation, which is your child, will inherit them? Before we go any further, can we agree that we should raise babies better than our choices? You made the choice to keep the child. You are spending every single day, every sweat, and every tear raising this kid. And then you wake up one morning and start cursing them because of why.
Yes, he left, and yes, he pays absolutely no bills. He doesn’t show up for his child. He fails to keep his promises, and for most of them, they even blocked you. So now you need to pick a side and heal. You cannot be a vindictive human being, cursing and calling people names, then turning around and using the same mouth to bless your children. As a society, we need to do better with our kids. We need to do better with our next generation. When a person leaves, let him be. Don’t follow him with insults; don’t be in his business. Unless you want to sue him for custody, in which case go the legal way. But if you have decided to be the staying parent, be a healthy parent,a blessing parent. Forgive yourself for choosing a person like him; forgive him for not stepping up.
And men, this idea of saying children will look for you when they are adults is an absolute ghetto. Either raise your children or stay away for eternity. Before you say the moms are refusing to let you see the kids,have you tried a lawyer? Have you tried to get a mediator between the two of you? Or you just want to show up and see the kids talking about all the reasons why you can’t provide for your kids. Oh, I am not shopping for that woman to eat or things like that. Y’all need to grow up or go away.
We need to do better; we need to heal. Heal from your pain and from your choices, and wear your consequences with pride. To the women celebrating themselves as father’s, sister,sister you are not a father; you are the parent who stayed. Just like single dad’s aren’t mom’s, they are the parent that stayed…
From the writer’s corner. Happy Father’s Day, gentlemen. I hope it’s not too late to salvage what is left of the rest of this day.
#forgive
#rebuild
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