Proverbs tell us in the Bible not to spare the rod and spoil the child.This is a tremendously helpful lesson that begs parents to exercise caution so that their kids don’t grow up to be obnoxious and lose their sense of purpose in life.
Although I don’t disagree that the rod is the best tool for disciplining kids, I believe that parents who subject their kids to physical abuse in the name of discipline should not use the book of proverbs as justification for their behavior.
Have you ever considered a few of your child’s reactions to physical punishment?Here are just a handful of them that are more obvious.
Physical punishment entails causing agony to the child, which may leave them with scars that could stick with them .
Parents who beat their children unnecessarily or without cause should try to prevent their children from becoming rogues.
Domestic violence is a result of beating.Such violence is bad, and children who are beaten often carry some degree of resentment with them, leading them to believe that using violence is the only way to resolve conflicts.This is not healthy at all, and sometimes the victims of physical abuse end up becoming the violent spouses in their families.So avoid physical punishment in order to avert this.
The victim of physical abuse experiences a decline in self-esteem. Additionally, many kids are hesitant to express their opinions.
Alternatively, how do you believe we should proceed if we need to stop using violence while still disciplining kids?Attempting to reason with the child is the best course of action.Despite their propensity for hyperbole and violence, attempt to explain to them that using violence does not benefit them in any way.If your child seems to be acting inappropriately, have a conversation with them to get their perspective. Inquire as to why they did what they did and explain the consequences of their behavior.Make sure they are fully aware of the repercussions of their behavior before requiring them to apologize.
While this is a form of discipline, the child is not physically harmed; rather, it teaches them how to perform various household tasks.
Reducing the child’s allowance—that is, the money you give them when they go out—is another option.
These are the tried-and-true techniques that have been shown to be the most successful.
Physical abuse, especially in the form of domestic violence, leaves deep scars, influencing not only the victims but also future generations. Avoiding physical punishment is essential to break this cycle of violence and nurture healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. Great insight.
Gentle parenting is the way to go